Your perception of me is a reflection of you :

Hello friends, today I want to share a beautiful article which elucidates the quote, ‘Your perception of me is a reflection of you.’ When I uploaded this quote on Google Plus a long time back, I had this feeling that although I might have discussed this quote in short, I need to discuss it more elaborately under an article to give you a better and deeper understanding of the subject and to help you understand an Empath’s perception and how others perceive them in general. This is my humble attempt to illuminate some issues revolving around this quote, which I have experienced in my life. As I always say, take only what resonates and leave the rest. Thank you! Okay, so let's go step by step.

1)The Act of Mirror: To explain this point, let me give you a classic example of a person who, because of a slight misunderstanding, has been holding a grudge right from the day I got married, which is February 26th, 2001. So what happened was my parents organized a wedding reception the same day I got married. My in-laws organized a wedding reception the next day from their side. I don't know if there was a communication problem, but my parents forgot to invite one of my Mom’s distant cousins to the reception arranged from Mandar’s side. My Uncle was deeply hurt that we ignored him. To show how hurt he was, he did tit for tat; he also didn’t invite us to his daughter’s wedding reception, even though my parents had said sorry and asked for forgiveness. Okay, now tell me, you behaved with us the same way (intentionally) we behaved with you(unintentionally). Fine! So, were you happy and at peace after treating us the same way we treated you? Did your tit-for-tat behaviour dissolve your anger and resentment towards us? Did it release you from the pain which you were and are still holding in your mind, body and soul? No.. the pain is still there, right? I can feel it in my bones. Then why? What purpose did your tit-for-tat behaviour serve? When I was in India 4 years back, I was with my dad for almost one and a half months (post-bypass surgery). Everybody knew my departure date. Some came to meet my dad when I was around. Some came a few weeks later after I left for Canada. You came the very next day and, on top of that, asked my parents oh, when did she leave? You knew I was at my parent's place. I was completely unaware of this development, but when Aai told me about your visit, I said, “I missed a chance to chat with him.” However, when I collected your thoughts, I realized you weren't eager to meet me like I was. So when I brought it to her notice, she nodded in approval and confirmed that I had made a point. See, it's not just the question of you waiting for me to leave because you wanted to avoid me. The whole point involved is that you are still suffering! Although you are on talking terms with my parents, you are still trapped in the negative emotions of anger and resentment. Understand it's not a question of assumption. It’s what I see and feel through my clairs, and it is exactly what I share.

Okay, so let me express how I felt about the whole reception incident. Please trust me; I felt awful after learning about this reception goof-up. Obviously, I noticed because I didn’t see you at the reception, and I remember asking Aai, ”Where is he? I don't see him”. She said, ”We forgot to invite him to today's reception, so he left early.” That's how I came to know. So, let me resolve this issue once and for all. I thought it was resolved a long time ago. But it's not. Anyways... The reason you told Aai for your anger was obviously because you were not invited. But what I heard further was utterly shocking and shook me to the core. You felt we ignored you because Mandar’s family was very rich, and we didn't consider you of that level( financially ). First, let me ask you. Both Aai and Baba grew up in poor families, right? Why on earth will they think this way? Secondly, you knew my Mom from your childhood, didn't you? Then how did you assume that she ignored you or even thought of avoiding you for this reason?

My perception: The reason why you felt this way. First, your childhood poverty was still hurting you. You were exposed to rejection and humiliation when you were a child. Even though you are an adult today, you are still carrying the wounds of your past. Your inner child is angry and hurt. You showed this through your behaviour, where you thought you were ignored. Improved financial status helped you move ahead in life however, it couldn't release the past hurts from your system. I saw it because an empath sees and feels every single thing. The past hurts were carried forward, and those hurts made you attach the same reason to every single situation in your life, and that was ’Rejection.’ You thought people were rejecting you, whereas the rejection came from within. "You" rejected yourself. You ignored loving yourself and forgiving yourself for allowing people to hurt, humiliate, or reject You. That's what you saw in me. I mirrored it back to you. You felt everybody was seeing you as financially poor and hence were ignoring you, which was never the case. See, I never had social platforms like Facebook before moving to Canada. Mandar introduced me to Facebook and suggested in case you want to keep in touch with anyone you feel like because now that we are not in India, it might be difficult for us to stay in touch with the people we want. Just like I was adding my cousins, I sent a friend request to your daughter, too. She completely ignored me and my messages, leaving me wondering like what must have happened! She spoke properly when I attended her wedding in Pune. I really felt terrible. See means the resentment you had in your heart, you shared it with your kids. Why? Friends, as of today, he happily shares his kid's progress with my parents and feels content when he garners appreciation and acknowledgement for the same, but when he had the opportunity to spend time with me to appreciate my progress, he gave it a pass! He was not able to face me for two reasons: first, ’He feared’ that he wouldn't be able to hide his real emotions in front of me, and secondly, he would have to appreciate my progress, which he wanted to avoid because he was just not interested. And that's why he even wore a fake mask when we crossed paths at a wedding ceremony in India. I was so eager to chat with him, but all he could do was fake a smile in front of others. See, most of the time, you forgive others, but you forget to forgive yourself. ’ Self-forgiveness’ is what you need to practice more. It's like a natural cleanser for your entire system. Again, when you see yourself in the place of a victim, you keep attracting the same scenarios, showing you that you are a victim. When you ’think’ that I am going to give you tit for tat, you get negatively attached by an invisible string with that person. And when you ’do’ tit for tat, that negative invisible string stays connected to your life. The only difference that can be seen is that you were tied to another person earlier, and now you have tied yourself to your fate(in a negative way). It's become a part of your future. This is how bad karma gets created.

There is another small misunderstanding I would like to clarify. One of my relatives visited Vancouver for a month. Since I was not well, I didn't invite him to my place. He sulked and complained near my mother about how I could behave in such a manner. He made a big issue out of it. Okay, so let me ask the person concerned. I had so many reasons to sulk. Although Mandar was your cousin's sister’s son-in-law, you didn't bother to wait for his farewell party. As an employer, your duty was to stay at the party, express your heartfelt thanks, give him good wishes for his future and then leave. As a matter of fact, you should have given him a farewell gift from the management for his hard work, devotion and dedication. You simply walked away! Still, I invited you and your wife to my place for a feast and gave you gifts. Everybody was inviting me and Mandar for either lunch or dinner because we were migrating to Canada. You invited us a day before we relocated to Canada. I mean, what? Are you inviting me to show my mother that you did your duty of inviting me and I didn't come? Did I ever sulk or complain for the reasons mentioned above? No... I didn't! Because I understood! So Why did ’You’ judge me? Did you even bother to consider that if she didn't invite me to her place, there has to be a strong reason behind it? What is it you are so arrogant about? Is your unlimited money showing such an attitude, or what? As of today, I own two houses in Canada(acquired from our hard-earned money) but still have never felt the need to boast about it or show it through my behaviour. Your case is like ’Offended by everything and ashamed of nothing.’ So now tell me, how does it feel when someone judges you? Try asking yourself these questions before accusing me of not inviting you to my place. I could have sulked and complained, but I never felt the need to because my love is unconditional, and it never expects anything in return. It knows how to forgive. Forgiveness is the only solution to help you get out of your low vibrations. It will help dissolve the negative karmic strings attached to your life only if you continue to practice it in your life with persistence. In my concluding words, I can say, ' Absorbed in this world, you’ve made it your burden. Rise above this world. There is another vision’ -- Rumi.

So, Friends, let me ask you this question. Why do people wear fake masks? They fear. Why do they fear? Because they hate to show their true self. They feel that if people see their true authentic selves, they won't be accepted by society or will be rejected or judged. This negative feeling compels them to wear a fake mask. For example, If a person is extremely sad inside, he might show that he is thrilled. It's not easy to show your vulnerabilities. It seriously needs tremendous courage to do so. Again, it's the fear that restrains us from being vulnerable. The first thought that pops into our mind is, ”What if someone takes advantage of my vulnerability”? This thought stops us from exhibiting our true selves. It forces us to hide our real emotions. A small example shows how fear keeps you engulfed in false beliefs. People often say,” Don’t laugh so hard; otherwise, you will cry.” And then, a few hours later, when something happens and you cry, they say, “See, I told you not to laugh so hard. Now see, you are crying”. When I thoroughly reflected on this statement. It made me wonder whether more laughter made me cry or if it was the thought that attracted the same. When you speak of a possibility, you send a signal to the universe to make it happen. So basically, it’s the ’fear of crying’ that keeps us apart from laughing wholeheartedly. Similarly, it's the thought that culminates in someone taking advantage of our fears. Let's face the fact that everyone is scared of one thing or the other, and I totally understand and honestly feel that fear is a much-needed aspect of our lives. Which means fear keeps us away from everything that's life-threatening. However, if it dawdles in our life for no reason, it creates hurdles in our progress path, brings stagnancy and stunts our growth. So now, how do we get to the bottom of this issue? How do we eradicate the root cause of people wanting and needing to wear fake masks? How do we let go of fear? How do we prevent ourselves from hampering our progress or following the path we are destined to follow? So today, I will share how I resolved the fear issues that had hit specific areas of my life. There were several issues related to fear. However, the biggest fear-related problem was “Communication”. Everybody knows that the Rashi lord of Gemini is Mercury. For those who don't - Mercury is a ruler of Communication. It governs everything related to communication and writing. Generally, people whose zodiac is Gemini have a strong hold on communication. But to me, it was completely the opposite! Why? Because I asked it that way! I asked let me fight for it. Please don't give it to me easily :) To be honest, I always had a severe communication problem not just in English but also in my mother tongue, and that's Marathi and then in Hindi. I don't know; I either stuttered or went completely blank. So basically, in school, I never liked to converse. I was more of an observant nature. That’s why I got attracted to music, which laid a strong substratum for singing. Eventually, I realized that singing was much more convenient than communication. I had found my solace in ‘Music.’ College life opened the doors of communication, and I could converse more easily and confidently. I frequently admired and applauded people who spoke and wrote fluently. I adored the fine contribution they made through their thoughts for the betterment of society. It inspired me and pushed me to the point of no return. The hunger for helping humanity was so intense that it drove me crazy and left me wondering how to end this persistent communication problem. How do I overcome it? Dear God, what should I do? And one fine day, I received his answer :) So this is what God replied, ”Child! Right now, I want you to observe. When the right moment arrives, you will speak, and hundreds and thousands will listen”. So, when the right moment came, my thoughts struggled to get organized. I questioned myself. How do I communicate? I wanted my thoughts to reach the masses on a larger scale. Also, I was more comfortable with noting down the flow of my thoughts in a better way; hence, I decided to opt for written communication. Again, I knew I needed to communicate in English if I wanted to reach out to the whole world. Post-awakening, when I realized that I was destined to narrate the memoirs of my life, fear loomed and lingered. See, when you communicate with your friends and family in any language, you feel it’s okay, but when addressing hundreds and thousands, you want to present your thoughts and ideas in immaculate words. Fear spoke in the form of negative thoughts like what if people laughed at me for making grammatical errors or for forming a wrong statement. What then? Such thoughts pushed me away from my goal, from what I really wanted to do, which is ’communicate.’ I don’t know, but suddenly, I wished to be like Aamir Khan of PK movie, who could pick up thoughts, behaviours and even languages by holding hands with a person he wanted to, but then, a beautiful thought crossed my mind. It whispered, ”Sweetheart, once they realize that despite the communication problem, you are trying to help and heal, Won't they simply love you for your kindness”? This thought washed the fear from my whole system. So where there is no fear, Is there any need to wear a fake mask? Nope!!! Such beautiful thoughts not only helped me forge my path with confidence but also encouraged me to learn something more, something new about the languages I knew. I can say it’s always a work in progress :). Understand that you can create positive thoughts only when you don't see yourself as a victim. When you let go of the hurt or walk out of the place where ego resides (mind space) and make heart space your abode, no matter what negative thoughts arise in your mind or what negative situation you are called to face, every single negative thought gets kicked out of your system. That's how it works!

2)The vibration is too high: Let’s discuss a classic example highlighting the point of fast vibration. Last year, my dad was diagnosed with non-Hodgkin lymphoma ( first stage ), a type of cancer. We received confirmation from the biopsy report of the left inguinal lymph node. My whole world came crashing down when I heard the news. The first thought that rushed to me was, ‘I want’ to be at his side in such an hour of crisis to help him fight this battle. I felt the need to be with him to boost his morale and support in whatever way I can. But alas! Every single thought was pushed away when I realized the seriousness of my physical health. My condition didn’t permit me to travel. That’s how sick I was. The result — my relatives judged me. They complained near my parents that I was not in India to be at his side when he needed me the most. Okay, now let me ask my relatives who judged. Mama, What made you judge the whole situation? Do you have the slightest idea about my health issues? Do you know what I am going through, both physically and emotionally? No, you don’t! Okay, now try asking yourself these questions, which you have conveniently forgotten to answer or completely overlooked because it never mattered. Post awakening, all these questions haunted me, and I wondered how it neither affected you nor others. Today, I am guided to ask you the same.

Point number one: When your mother was on her deathbed, you travelled to Pune. Her endless pleas also couldn’t stop you. So when she breathed her last, you weren’t there by her side. Why weren’t you there for her when she needed you the most? Was your work more important than your mother's?

Point number two: What if I say, ‘ Your daughter is a couch potato, a complete good-for-nothing person when it comes down to the word ‘help’? How does it feel? Okay, now let’s time travel four years back when we met at the wedding ceremony of Saurabh. I remember you informed us that she is on antibiotics because of her throat. This was the reason you were trying to forward, so that nobody would ask why she was just sitting at one place in a marriage house, helping nobody but doing the sweet talk. Why?? She was on antibiotics, right?

Point number three: I have seen your son spitting on your face and speaking rudely(many times) when he was in Grade 6 or 7.

Point number four: When I met your wife after a gap of 4 years, all she could do was laugh and ridicule Parth’s health. Another absurd behaviour of hers didn’t go unnoticed. I was invited to a baby naming ceremony, and so was your Wife. I was leaving my car and saw your wife getting out of hers. She didn’t see me. Your 88-year-old father was opening the car door for her. I mean, what? Don’t you think so? It should have been the other way around.

My perception: Now let me tell you how we perceived all these scenarios. You were not able to be at your dying Mother’s side. We understood! Your daughter was not able to help in the marriage house. We understood! See, it’s not just the question of showing how she couldn’t help. It’s that I never saw or heard anybody speak about her helpful nature. It’s not the ears I always believe in; it’s the eyes I trust. As of today, everybody talks about her husband’s helpful nature, but nobody speaks about her. Why? Because everybody knows how She is! But still, we understood! Despite the poor academic performance and insolent behaviour, your son never got targeted or bullied. We always appreciated and acknowledged their good points and ignored their bad traits. That’s how it should be! You and your wife never appreciated me wholeheartedly. Your appreciation felt very superficial because you did it for the sake of doing it( Now that you are my niece, I will have to appreciate.)and not because you wanted to out of love. There’s a difference, right? We still understood! I remember the day when Parth was wearing a black suit and tie for the wedding reception. Just imagine a three-year-old wearing a suit and tie. Obviously, he was looking super cute. Anybody would have appreciated it on my face, but all your wife could do was call your name to show you how he looked, and you both stared at him. Why? Why didn’t you appreciate it? So this is what I derived from your behaviour. You and your wife always dared to criticize, demoralize, laugh, mock and ridicule and missed no opportunity to pull me down, but when you had several opportunities to appreciate either me or my kids, you couldn’t gather enough courage to do the same. The point I am trying to explain is that even I could have called your whole family insensitive, rude and worthless. But I never felt the need to! The funniest part is that everybody( other relatives) was ever-ready to belittle me but never behaved inappropriately with their other nieces and nephews. As far as I know, they had more physical and behavioural issues right from their childhood. Some had turned bald in their twenties, and some had significant stammering problems. If it was your habit to criticize and laugh at someone with physical or emotional disabilities, how were they left untouched? As per my observation and analysis, they were spared from criticism and mockery because their academic performance was praiseworthy, and their parents ensured everybody appreciated them every time we met. Whereas my parents never appreciated me, although they had much to share and appreciate. We all live in a society where only a doctor, engineer or businessman receives red-carpet treatment. Who cares about others :( So primarily, either he needs to have tremendous intelligence or loads of money. It's a bitter truth that this belief was introduced to us by our parents because it was injected into their minds by their parents. If you are not academically promising, then you are dumb. One of my relatives said I had fewer brains, so I did catering. Just because your daughter is an Engineer working in the US, does it give you the right to call me a person with less brains? I didn't do catering because I had no brains; I did because it’s my passion, and I love to cook! I mean, I don't understand. Just because I didn't pursue medicine, engineering, management or business, does it make me dumb? How can everybody be a doctor or an engineer? Our future generation is going to suffer if we continue to hang and hold onto the false beliefs that are ingrained in our conditioned minds. Don't you think it's time to let go of such a conditioned mindset? So what I want to say is that you completely ignored mocking your other nieces and nephews, whereas I was constantly targeted. And the reason you gave my Mom for mocking me was that you considered me your own. Fine agreed! Then why didn't you behave similarly with your other nieces and nephews, who, as far as I know, were much closer to you than me? That means you knew targeting someone for their physical or behavioural weaknesses wasn't appropriate. So now, how do you expect me to believe the reason you are forwarding? Someone truly said,” We are all good lawyers for our own mistakes but judges for the mistakes of others.”

Again, these people didn’t stop or look contented after passing judgements (cause I was absent during my dad’s major illness). They went to the extent of ridiculing me because I was posting songs and other stuff on Pinterest. I mean, what? How exactly do you want me to behave? According to you, am I supposed to sulk, complain, get upset, and feel restless because he had to go through this phase? Whatever I have been posting on Google Plus, and Pinterest is my mission. I volunteered to help and heal humanity. Just as someone said, “The show must go on.“ And that’s what I did! I continued with my mission work despite the difficult situation.

To explain this point further, I want to present an example of my aunt, who was crying, complaining and sulking for more than 30 years because her father-in-law mistreated her. It was a complete emotional abuse. So whenever we met, she either sulked or cursed her fate. Seriously, it irritated us to the core. I mean, every single time, the same topic was discussed, like how she was emotionally harassed. We totally understand, empathize with you, and feel proud of you that despite his rude behaviour, you never neglected your responsibilities. But there is a limit to everything! The day you crossed your limits was the day I decided to address this issue ASAP. So the occasion was her son’s wedding, and my parents invited her entire family for lunch( we call it ’kelvan’ in Marathi). She cried that day, too! It not only kept her in a negative frame but also pulled everyone else into that sulky mood for the rest of the day. Gheeze man! I mean, what? You do not see the day, time, or occasion. I noticed she had totally lost it. I could feel the deep-seated anger, resentment, and hurt in her mind, body and soul.

Okay, so let me ask my aunt. Maushi, What did you achieve by crying for more than 30 years? Was it to achieve solace? Was it for sympathy? Were you trying to show that whatever pain you are enduring, nobody has gone through it the way you are experiencing? Did your constant complaining and crying stop his abuse? No, it didn't, right? Then why? What purpose did your endless complaining serve?

My perception: So let me tell you what you achieved. You didn’t achieve solace; You achieved more pain! Don't you think you were attracted to more suffering when you stayed in the same negative vibration of blame, anger, and resentment? When you showed the Universe that you are here for a longer haul (to be in a state of anger and resentment), it gave you even more reasons to blame and sulk. Your lesson was to forgive him, but you went on a blaming spree as to how he was torturing you, although you had proved that you were an ideal daughter-in-law to your in-laws in all senses. Again, why did you think that your pain was the most significant pain in this world, which made you cry for more than 30 years? If you had come out of the victim's place, you could have seen how others are suffering, and then you would have realized that your pain was nothing! Shift happens when you stop playing a victim card! Shift happens when you try to be in another person's shoes. When you finally learn to decipher the pain in your life, you understand that everything happens for a reason. It's up to you if you want to resolve the issue or if you want to go in circles. Because until you learn the lesson, it will be a part of your future. The difference is that in the next life, the face who is torturing you or you feel they are torturing you must have changed :) So, friends, what does the above example teach you? It shows that sulking, crying and complaining don't help you escape the negative situation. It drags you deeper. Happiness comes from within. It never depends on the outside factors. No matter how adverse your current situation is, you can still feel happy and at peace if your thoughts and actions emanate positivity. I was genuinely trying to boost my dad’s morale by spreading positive energy through laughter, which eventually kept him in high vibrations. However, these insecure people judged, ridiculed and mocked my actions. See, I am vibrating at an extremely high level, and people whose energy is clogged feel insecure around me and apparently try to pull me into their low vibrations. Tell me how my sulking could have helped either me or my dad fight his illness. Almighty has been so kind! Today, because of his grace and kind blessings, my dad is cancer-free. He had to undergo six chemos to remove the virus from his body. He is absolutely okay, but as they say, the fight continues...Thank you, divine... Thank you so much for protecting me and my family and for imparting us with tremendous courage( especially to my dad) during such an hour of crisis.

3)Vibration wrongly interpreted: Just like everyone, my life too was divided into different phases. Not age-wise but behavioural-wise or stability-wise. The two essential phases I encountered were pre-awakening and post-awakening, which again branched into several subphases. Out of the many phases I experienced, this phase exposed me to a bigger world because it transpired after I migrated to Canada. After the initial jetlag and settling down phase, I started interacting with people on a much grander scale. The more I interacted, the more I felt like an odd man out; perhaps I was standing on the threshold of an awakening. I strongly felt its presence on the horizon, gearing up to help me realize the true purpose of my life. Initially, it was okay, but as the days passed, the feeling got stronger- a feeling that something was wrong. Something felt off when I interacted with people. Basically, I was noticing their true faces, which they were hiding behind fake masks. And it didn’t go well with them. It was difficult for them to digest that I was seeing their vulnerabilities, which they were trying to hide all the way through. The result was that they either distanced themselves from me or ignored me completely. I froze! Oh! I had carried this energy from childhood, which was the only reason some people with low vibrations acted weirdly or hurt me; they simply couldn't articulate why they felt different around me. Everything made sense now that I knew! Suddenly, I was afraid to talk. I was no longer interested in socializing. The newfound reality of staying away from people was disturbing. Yet, it brought a tremendous sense of relief that, henceforth, my extrasensory perception(sixth sense) will guide and protect me from everything that doesn’t belong to my path. It not only guided me toward light but also helped me see the darkness in others. I saw that people usually portrayed themselves as someone else(with the masks) while interacting, whereas they were someone else behind each other's back( without the masks). As I noticed their real faces, I also started picking up on their thoughts and emotions. How was I able to do it? I knew the unknown thought that arose in my mind from nowhere was obviously not mine. Then whose? What's happening? God, please help. I cried for help! I was divinely guided to the word ’Empath,’ and when I dug deeper, a massive world of Empathy welcomed and introduced me to whatever I needed and wanted to know. It helped me realize that I didn’t cross paths with it by ‘chance’ but by ‘choice.’ I had chosen to be one! I again freaked out. Was my whole life changing, or was it falling apart? But as they say, ”If God brings you into a particular situation, he helps you out of it, too.” My role as an Empath had just begun!

Honestly speaking, I always felt his presence, guiding and protecting me throughout the journey. He never left my side. All I wanted and needed to do was ’surrender’ to His will. And that's what I did :) Things started getting more simpler once I surrendered. Now that I knew I wasn't alone and was constantly accompanied by my Almighty, I noticed fear getting replaced by curiosity. It pushed me further to explore. As I dived deeper, it purified my energy( not to forget the tremendous amount of pain it brought with it) and pulled me into higher vibrations. Apparently, all low vibrational attachments, whether food, people or place, continued to drop from my energetic field. I had to let go of everything that did not resonate with my mind, body, and soul. However, there were people who had offered their help but had to leave them behind because they had already served their purpose. Understand, it was not an easy job to avoid or totally ignore someone who had helped me somehow. It was extremely heartbreaking to move ahead without someone you connect with on a deeper level( both emotional and spiritual), and I was told to let go of them too( my spiritual teachers and some good friends). Now that I was letting go of all the people from my past who had served their purpose or were not in my life for the highest good, I decided not to befriend anyone from my side. The only reason was my high vibration. I thought, that if they are of my vibration, they will approach me because they won’t get scared however, if they are not, they will stay away. I felt relieved that at least nobody would get hurt this way. But you know something, everybody doesn’t think the same way you want them to! I felt bad. I was terribly judged. Why? They thought I had a superiority complex and considered me to be somebody big (motha manus)and hence were expecting people to approach me. Initially, I ignored it. But when I saw through my clairs that the woman who judged and ridiculed that ‘ I ‘ had a superiority complex in me had it in ‘her,’ I felt I needed to address the issue. Okay, so what happened was that she expected people to treat her like she was superior because of her power, position or money. So when she was confronted with reality, she retorted, “If you have some brains, you will see what I did for you. How could you say this and that?”. Further, she added, “I won't be able to maintain a cordial relationship with you unless You stop saying negative things about me.” So, see, two things got cleared. First, if you are saying I did so much for you, and still you behaved with me in such a way, whatever you did, Was it unconditional? When you do things for others unconditionally, you don’t stay attached to the return gifts(not the material ones but the ones like she should behave with me according to my power and position or treat me as if I am someone superior). See, I have never believed in forming relations by seeing a person's power, position, money or intelligence. I love to connect with the soul! If I feel you are bringing your status symbol or any of the above into our friendship, I will keep my distance from you. Secondly, I was in your good books until I spoke positively about you, but when I observed something negative and tried to bring it to your notice, it threw you off the shelf. You went into defensive mode. Understand! A strong woman accepts compliments and criticism graciously, knowing that it takes sun and rain for a flower to grow. I was expected to sing your praises just because you arranged my baby shower, but I was not allowed to show the hurt your soul was carrying. Whatever I said was completely taken in the wrong way. However, you always looked elated when some fake people appreciated you on the face. It totally didn’t affect me when you pointed out my anger issues, but why did “You” get triggered when I showed you the truth? That means you only want people to appreciate and acknowledge, but when it's time to face constructive criticism, you show your discontent. Real people are rejected, whereas fake people are accepted. So true! Yes, I do believe in appreciation and acknowledgment. But are you even seeing if their appreciation is for real? Or they are just trying to be in your good books for their selfish motives. Again, it's not a question of assuming. What I see through my third eye is what I share! So when I try to disconnect myself from such people, not because they are wrong, but because their negative emotions get absorbed in me, they misinterpret my behaviour as rude behaviour, a person having attitude problems, having a superiority complex etc, etc.

So, what I want to arrive at is that whatever you see in me is actually in you. I am simply trying to show you the mirror. As a child, I faced criticism, ridicule and mockery. When I grew up, I was relieved to see that all these had finally stopped. However, my happiness was short-lived. The awakening phase enlightened me on this fact that it never did! The only difference was, earlier, they laughed in my face. Now, they were doing it behind my back. It hurt me tremendously when I realized that the people I loved and adored turned out to be haters. You see, I was always a giver. The post-awakening phase changed my entire perspective. Nothing resonated with what I was experiencing in the ’Now’ moment. It compelled me to stop and take an about turn towards a completely different path. Everything I had refused to see before or had ignored to question was eager to seek my attention. I noticed that the people I was surrounded with were only interested in their lives and achievements. They were never interested in mine. I unfailingly offered my unconditional love and support and, in exchange, received rejection, ignorance and mockery for my physical and behavioural disabilities. And I still continued to love them. This made me pause and ask myself why it didn’t occur to me before. While seeing and keeping everyone happy, was I neglecting my happiness? Something was amiss! What was it? Yes, it was the absence of ‘Self-love’. Friends, I had forgotten to love myself. We all know the famous quote, ‘If you don't love yourself, how will you love others.’ But with me, it was the opposite. I loved everyone except me. My whole body shivered. Gheeze, how could I do that? I realized my mistake, and I immediately decided to rectify it. I decided to practice self-love on all levels. The first step started with setting boundaries. I started saying ’No’ where I needed to say No. I literally stopped giving, appreciating and acknowledging, of course, only to those whom I was guided not to. The result was that the same people who had gotten comfortable with receiving from me were triggered. Now that I had set healthy boundaries to protect myself and my family, they got upset because I had put an end to their endless mockery and ridicule. So suddenly, I was blamed for changing, for having anger issues; why? Because I refused to walk the path they wanted me to walk. A path which expected me to give, appreciate and acknowledge unconditionally but didn’t allow me to receive the same from their side wholeheartedly. Guys, honestly, I never had any anger issues when I was a child and didn't develop any along the road. I was a very quiet and sensitive kid. They saw it in me because it was in them. Now you tell me. Does standing up for yourself show that you have anger issues? Does fighting for what you feel is right show you have anger issues? No, it doesn't...So, what I want to convey is that love helped me let go of all these people who were in my life for their selfish motives. I want to ask one such person a question. My whole life, you called me names. Neither I nor my parents confronted you for your rude behaviour. You were okay with it! And now, when I ignored your daughter, not because you hurt me, but because she was of a low vibration( which got passed from you ), It disturbs you? Why? Did you ever realize how disturbed my parents must have been when you bullied me emotionally?

So, friends, the bottom line of my message is to make you realize and understand that the reason I have kept my distance from you is: 1)We both are vibrating at a different frequency level. 2)You have either served your purpose, or 3)You simply don't belong to my path. These are the reasons I was guided to leave you behind and not because you hurt me or I am still holding grudges against you. Understand, I always offered unconditional love and help regardless of your bullying nature. How will I get angry or upset now that I know the reason for your behaviour? See, let me explain to you in detail. I am a healer, and you were sent to me because you needed healing and had lessons to learn. I wanted to heal, so you came into my life. You showed me the wound, and I gave you a remedy. Now that you are healed and have learned what you were supposed to learn, it's time for me to move on, and that's what I have done. Let me share a beautiful example with you. Let's say a patient visits a doctor. He checks him, gives his diagnosis and prescribes a particular medicine. He advises him to take necessary precautionary measures. The patient says thank you and leaves the clinic with the prescription. Next patient, please! The doctor is now waiting for another patient. So this is how it works, and this is how it should be! Just imagine what would happen if the doctor stayed fixated on his earlier patient for whatever reason, like, hmm, he was so friendly or Oh! How the poor chap is suffering, feels so bad. Will he be able to focus on his next patient? Of course not! So, he needs to move to the next patient without any emotional attachment. Similarly, I am not allowed to stay behind in any relationship, may it be a relative or a friend, because the path I am walking doesn't permit you to walk with me. Now, you will ask. Can't you at least say hello? And I will say ‘No, I can't’! This is exactly what my journey expects me to do— ‘Walk in solitude.’ The journey I have embarked on, or the phase I am experiencing, is highly sacred, and a heavenly energy has been guiding and accompanying me throughout. Imagine your teacher is trying to teach you something, and you continue to chat with your friends. Will you be able to understand what your teacher is trying to explain? No, you won’t, right? And that’s precisely what he wants me to do. ‘Stay away’ from everybody so I can hear his divine guidance more clearly and accurately! As of today, many are still approaching me despite telling them not to! They are asking for forgiveness and sending messages through my mom. Please understand I don't want to hear your sorry. I want you to do your inner work. See, I have told you before and will tell you again that if I have decided to stay away, there is a strong reason for such a decision, and I request you to respect my decision! Then why are you still buzzing me? Again, some fake expired relations are buzzing to wish me on my birthday. See, God sent you to me because you had a lesson to learn from me. A friendship lesson may be :) A true friend doesn't say, ” Don't involve me in all this; otherwise, I have to bear it.” True friends don't blame and accuse you. A true friend always forgives! No matter how incessant the problem is, a true friend will never leave your side because they understand! When your soul carries excessive baggage of past hurts, you find yourself as a victim. When you are healed, you are able to help others the way they want. But when your soul is unhealed, you are not able to forgive. You blame and accuse. A small piece of advice: Forgive yourself first ( for allowing others to hurt you) so you can forgive others. Befriend yourself first so you will be able to understand your friends! Then, some are expecting me to stay behind because my energy soothes them. Please understand I ’Cannot’ stay with you forever. I have already tried convincing you ‘n’ number of times through emails that God sent you to me because you needed healing, but what I am sensing through my third eye is that you are still struggling to come out of that feeling. “Please move on”. It’s creating unnecessary stagnancy in your life. I have moved on, and I request that you do the same! Usually, we see what we want to see and not what we need to see. Right now, I need you to see that your life has become stagnant because you are stuck in one place. It’s not helping you grow. Then, some expect me to approach them and wonder why I am not doing the same. See, The reason I am not approaching you is because I am told not to and not because I am scared to approach. If you feel that I am terrified to let go, it’s because ’You’ are afraid to let go, which, apparently, you are seeing in me. ‘Let Go’!!. It’s not what you think it is, and I have already told you this telepathically. Understand! I can approach you personally and tell you this and that. If I walk on your behalf, how will ‘You’ learn to walk? How will you grow? What happens when you crack an egg? There is no life. Life happens when the egg opens from the inside.

This reminds me of a beautiful memory from Pannu’s strong-start days. Since it was a government-based programme, the kids were provided with healthy snacks. However, our(Mom’s) job was to cut, arrange and serve it to the kids. I always ended up doing most of the work. And because I offered to help first, no one else came forward to do the same. A couple of mommies helped, but it happened once or twice a week. Rest all days I did it. But I never complained. My help didn’t go unnoticed. One day, she said,” You are my Cinderella, always doing the dishes and other stuff.” I replied, “Ms. Linda, I love to help, and that’s why I volunteered! She smiled; however, I could see the discontent behind her smile, as not many volunteered, although they had signed up to volunteer. Eventually, the discontent in her spoke, “Hey Shweta, If you are going to do this every single time, which you are not supposed to do, nobody else will bother. They, too, volunteered, right? You can’t write your names on the volunteer sheet and then avoid doing it. So let them do it, and you can sit back for a while. Similarly, the message I want to convey is that you volunteered to learn a specific lesson. If that lesson expects you to experience a certain amount of pain, so be it! Growth can only happen through pain and hard work. Don’t run away from your pain. Look at it as a stepping stone to progress. Initially, I used to feel bad that I had twisted fingers and weak legs. But now, when I look at the positive side of having these disabilities, I see that my weak fingers helped me write messages to inspire, uplift and guide humanity. My weak legs helped me walk away from everything that no longer served me or was for my highest good! Learn to read the pain in your life. Understand why it’s there in your life. Then, use it to proceed towards success :). If nothing is going right, go left. As I always say, ‘Look at the bigger picture’ and you will find answers to your problems. So allow me to go my way! Last month, one of my friends asked me Hey, Are you dying? She was so disturbed. People ask such questions because they see how much I am distancing myself. I avoid eye contact; I rarely go out. This phase has been challenging for me. I have volunteered to answer His highest calling and whatever I am going through will be divulged in divine timing. And no, I am not dying. Thank you so much for the concern; I highly appreciate it! My whole life, I understood people. I supported and loved everyone unconditionally. Why? Because my soul had already learned that lesson. The lesson I was expected to learn was ’Self-love’. See, if I continue to offer unconditional love and support, I will never learn the lesson I am supposed to learn. Confused? Let me explain it to you more elaborately.

See, when you are given a lesson to learn, let's say forgiveness. You are called to show forgiveness. Once you learn to forgive, you proceed to the next lesson, which might be, let’s say, Self-love. So, if you continue to be selfless even though the lesson demands you to be selfish, you won't progress! That's how stagnancy happens. And that's why I feel does ’Going with the flow’ quote really helps you flow? I mean, it depends! Understand if you have proceeded to the second level but are still repeating the first-level tactics, it will create confusion. Like, Oh! I was going with the flow, so how are things not working in my favour? They are not working in your favour because you are still clinging to the past moves, which helped you progress while learning that lesson! It enabled you to proceed. What you are not seeing is a different lesson demands you to play differently. It's like a game of cards. A different game expects you to follow its rules. If you continue to apply the rules of solitaire to a different game, will it work? It won't, right? So this is what I want to arrive at. If I don't set healthy boundaries to practice self-love, people will continue to take me for granted. My lesson is ’Self-love,’ and I need to practice it consistently in my daily life. As of today, I haven't stopped giving, but now I have learned to pause and see whether the person receiving my love so generously and unconditionally is humble enough to appreciate and acknowledge the same! Is he kind enough to reciprocate, or is he just interested in receiving? So basically, God wants me to see if that person really deserves my unconditional love! And it gets noticed when I connect with their energy. Honestly, I never felt the need to ask anything in return. I just gave! But now,’ God wants me to receive.’ He wants me to be selfish because I have been too selfless my whole life.

So, friends, this is all I could manage to come up with. I don’t know if hundreds and thousands are listening to what I have to say, but I feel that people are understanding what I am trying to explain and it’s giving me immense happiness that I got an opportunity to put my heart and soul into rendering whatever help I wanted and needed to. As I was laying the groundwork for narrating my life experiences, a beautiful thought crossed my mind and I decided to implement it. Primarily, the idea was to introduce myself to everybody through my work. Obviously, it was divinely guided. He not only brought the idea to me but also showed me how to implement it. See, we all want to find answers to our questions, right? So we leave no stone unturned in finding the same. Somehow, we forget that the watched pot never boils! And one fine day, when the time is right, we receive them when we aren't looking. Similarly, I received my answers in the form of a book. It was gifted to me. The book was ’Chicken Soup for the Soul’. Thank you so much, Pallavi Shetty, for the kind gift! I will be grateful to you my whole life:). To be honest, that book felt like a beacon of light which was sent to guide me through darkness. So now that I had stories to which I could relate, I decided to share them. Simply copying it from the book looked boring. I wanted to give it an attractive look. I needed to give it a feel! Finally, I decided to add pictures to give my stories and articles a feel-good factor. I was different and wanted to show it through my thoughts and beliefs. Whatever I have been posting on Google Plus and Pinterest is exactly What I am- simple, empathetic, straightforward, mischievous, down-to-earth and humorous. I have never faked myself to garner sympathy, appreciation, or acknowledgement or posted something that never resonated with my thoughts. I was called to help and heal humanity, and that's what I have done. I hope everyone enjoyed reading it like I enjoyed sharing it with you! I was feeling under the weather so that I couldn’t express my heartfelt gratitude on Google Plus when it was shut down. I would love to sincerely thank Google Plus for allowing me to share my thoughts, ideas and life experiences through stories and articles. Thank you so much, Google Plus and Pinterest! It was not possible for me to reach the masses without your platform. Again, thanks to those who helped my dad during his major illness. I am incredibly grateful for your kind help and support. Also, I would love to thank everyone I interacted with who helped me understand life in some way or another. I am standing at this stage because of you! ‘Thanks for helping me help you’! Please understand! I chose to be an empath! I chose to be different! I needed to show everybody how different I was. I weathered several pain patterns to understand humanity. And this is what I want to convey- If I can bounce back and succeed. If I can come out of my darkness,’ So can you.’ I wanted to heal, and you were sent to get healed, and that's precisely what I have done. It's up to you whether you want to rise above or stay in lower vibrations of anger and resentment for the rest of your life! I hope this message clarifies all your doubts about my behaviour and helps you to walk towards love and light :) Sending my best wishes and blessings to you and your family! May God bless you with good health, happiness, and success! Lastly, Thank you, God, for your kind help, encouragement, unconditional love and support. I felt your presence in words, my thoughts, and everything I was called to share! Nothing was possible without your divine guidance. Thank you so much for choosing me, believing in me and blessing me with tremendous courage, patience, humility, perseverance and serenity. Today, I feel truly honoured to be a part of your divine mission. And as always,’ I promise’ to deliver the divine vision that you have conceived in me, and ’I aspire’ to bring it forth for the betterment of humanity. Thank you so much for everything!

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